Pete and I are celebrating our 14 year anniversary tomorrow. We got married when I was 20 years old. At that time I was unable to drink legally . Which at that time was a big deal. That did not matter to me , I was ready to marry him the first time he picked me up in his Jeep Wrangler.
It took me a bit longer to convince him that I was the girl of his dreams. The older I get the more I realize I can be a bit pushy if I want something bad enough. And boy did I want him....A LOT!!
Just last week I suddenly realized we were in the month of June and I momentarily panicked thinking I may have forgotten our anniversary. Since that moment I have been reflecting a lot about our marriage. Who would have thought that we would have 5 kids??? When we first got married I remember saying, "I want 2, hope for 3 and dream about 4"...and now here we are 14 years later....
The funny thing about Pete and I is we never talked about having kids the first 5 years of marriage. We were doing things the "Catholic" way and not contracepting...not because we were great Catholics.. I was lazy and never wanted to keep up with "birth control"...of any form. Things are different now for us , we follow the Churches teachings on openness to life. But that was not the case in the beginning. We were young, oblivious and completely unprepared for a family.
After years of never thinking or talking about starting a family we moved to San Diego and friends of ours had just gotten pregnant with their first baby. I was in shock. I don't know why I was...I just was. I think up until that moment I had never thought of us as ready to have children. But here was a couple our age and they were about to have a baby. That got me thinking...
Maybe we should at least talk about the idea of having a baby. I started talking to Pete about it and in typical Pete fashion he was S...L...O....W... to warm up to the idea. I so clearly remember what he said to me one night as we were taking a walk after dinner and I was asking him for the 900th time..."What do you think about having a baby"
"Lisa...it's like this..a train just pulled up to the station, I JUST got on..and now I am looking for a seat."
I just wanted to know if we could start a family...I am not sure how we got on a train and now we are looking for a seat. That's my guy!! Needless to say, I helped him find a seat!!